Lessons from a broken heart

My title would make one assume that i have a broken heart... i did.

Each and everyone of us have undergone that phase... where you start singing that song "Breaking up is hard to do..." But what do we really get from a broken heart?

There are so many reasons why most young relationships do not last that long. Differences in opinions and interests, attitudes that we cannot tolerate, influences from friends, third parties and so much more. When we are with someone, we tend to give too much of ourselves. We forget that the relationship consists of two separate human beings, having a life of their own. They have their own group of friends, own families, own colleagues to hang out with, own activities... These are people in their lives that are important too... that need their attention once in a while... and sometimes these people are forgotten and taken for granted thinking that no matter what happens, they will still be there for you. This has caused many arguments. There is a need to understand that all of these are contributors to what makes you a special and unique individual. Communication is probably one of the biggest factors in having a successful relationship.

I have had relationships that lasted 5 years, 1 1/2 years, and some even just for a few months. Not all of them have given me heart aches. I guess the ones where you give your love the most are the ones that hurt. There are no regrets of course, because giving out your love is part of life. But losing it, in just a snap of a finger, will definitely hit you and bring you down. The process of having to stand back up with your two feet on the ground is the hardest part. A wall of fear will be put up, afraid of how something like that can happen to you again. A lot of people have contributed to my so called "healing". But i would have to say that the one person who has helped me was myself. So goes the saying "If you can't help yourself, no one can". I have then come to realize how much life has to offer, how much your family loves you, how much friends you have and how important they are to you. A relationship that didn't last was actually an opening for something better set out for you. When i think of how terrible i felt back then, i just smile and still thank Him. My true happiness is out there somewhere.

I have probably come of age where i just want someone who will basically understand me. Physical attraction is there but i remember a friend of mine once said, "Looks is just an icing on the cake..." I just need someone who will comfort me when i am feeling low and depressed... someone who i can talk with about anything, be it the past, present or future, and still look at me the same way... about a tiring day's work, or a funny incident, a past relationship, a future plan, anything under the sun... someone who can give me a hug and without saying a word, everything will seem alright... someone who listens... someone who i can love and in return just love me back... someone who will simply bring out the best in me...

And so now i continue to move on with a not-so-broken heart... appreciating life... enjoying every blessing that He has to offer... patiently waiting for His plan to unveil itself...